Find the Joy

“Mom I don’t like being told what to do. I don’t like going to school. It makes me angry when they don’t let me do what I want.”

My old soul in a young body little girl.

I know exactly how she feels. I remember not so long ago feeling the exact same way. School was NOT my thing. I suffered through to make others happy. I hated the schedule. I hated being told exactly how to think. I hated talking to adults who forgot what it was like.. or just didn’t care. There were a few teachers who did get it and I will forever remember the conversations we had and the impact they had on my young life.. but there were few..

I know how hard and long school felt because I absolutely dreaded being there. I complained and did the bare minimum. I gave attitude. I just knew I had better things to do even though I had no idea what those things were.

My daughter is eight. She is fighting the same battle. The everyday influences of people who forgot where they came from.. people who want all children to conform to what they want and behave how they want.. and be a certain way when they get older and decide who they want to be right now the rest of their lives.

The balance between loving, caring, all knowing old soul… and a child that needs to learn how to survive today is HARD. It’s hard to teach and it’s hard to LEARN.

Yes I want you to form your own opinions, but yes you have to eat what I made for dinner because I’m not making you a different dinner every night.

Yes I want you to make your own decisions on what you want to do with your life, but you have to at least graduate high school.

No you don’t have to go to college, but I want you to live comfortably.

The best advice that I had for my daughter, she may or may not have been really listening, because what do I know… 😊 was to make the best of it. Make the best of every situation even if it is not ideal. It is buying your future. You may not like school or you may not like you job, but it is paying for your future. It is paying for the path you will walk. It is insuring your dreams. Find the best in it. Find the things that you like and make sure you do them often. Sign up for sports, clubs, find great friends who will support your journey and you vice versa.

The time will pass faster and you will feel the joy in the experience even if they entire thing wasn’t the best.


Olivia Wineman

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